Actions speak louder than words

Actions speak louder than words

The other day, a well-intentioned post commending single parents irked me a little. The person’s partner was away for a few days and they were expressing admiration for single parents because the brief absence was making life challenging. I do appreciate it when...

What jewels are buried inside you?

What jewels are buried inside you?

“The universe buries strange jewels deep within us all and then stands back to see if we can ever find them.” This quote is from one of my favourite books, “Big Magic” by Elizabeth Gilbert. The book is Gilbert’s reflections on living a creative life and it is both...

I am from good apples and bad decisions

I am from good apples and bad decisions

“I am from good apples and bad decisions.” This is the last line of a poem my son brought home from school last week. It’s a line he wrote. The wisdom of children sometimes blows me away. I laughed when I first read it but the reality is that he’s right. He is from...

A simple solution for overwhelm

A simple solution for overwhelm

Are you tired? And not, “Wow! That was a big day!” tired. I mean "full-on exhausted just from the act of living" tired. In single parent groups and in Clubhouse rooms, I’m seeing frequent posts about not being able to keep up, feeling tired, stressed and overwhelmed....

The secret battle in your mind

The secret battle in your mind

You have a few little voices in your head that don’t want you to succeed. It’s not that they want you to fail. It’s just that, as your risk management department, they are VERY risk averse and much of success requires risk. As you can imagine, they don’t think much of...

After separation: What do I do now?

After separation: What do I do now?

“What’s one piece of advice you’d give someone who’s newly separated?” Someone in one of my social media groups asked this question yesterday and my answer came easily: Focus on yourself. Self-care, self-development… start dreaming again. What do you want to create...

How to calm your risk management department

How to calm your risk management department

I woke up with a feeling of dread at 3:30 this morning. I was convinced I was doing everything wrong and failure was coming for me. All my flaws and mistakes are surely going to catch up with me and wreak havoc, I thought. Panic, rumination, worry… “Breathe, Carmel....

Why 2022 is all about SNOWSHOES

Why 2022 is all about SNOWSHOES

My word for 2022 is SNOWSHOES. I admit that it’s a bit unconventional and I’m sure it’s made you tilt your head to one side or raise an eyebrow or two. But I assure you that it’s the best possible word for 2022…for me. In the final days of 2021, Vancouver Island...

Drop the drama in your life

Drop the drama in your life

Is relationship drama making your life more difficult and stressful than it has to be? If you’re going through a contentious divorce, a custody battle or have an on-going difficult relationship with your child’s other parent, minimizing the drama in your life can seem...

Improve your co-parenting relationship

Improve your co-parenting relationship

Are you spending time and energy fighting against the frustrating behaviours of your child’s other parent? It’s draining, isn’t it? And it really doesn’t get you anywhere either. They don’t change and you’re left desperately wishing they would wake up one day and...